What kind of life is worth living?


I recently had a conversation with a friend who was struggling with depression. He told me that he was really struggling with what he had to live for. No plans, just a lot of intrusive thoughts and depression. I don’t think my friend is alone in his feelings but I do believe he’s braver for being vocal about it. Henry David Thoreau wrote that “most men live lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with their song still in them.” 

I know this is true because I’ve been there, wondering if I’ll ever make it, if I’ll ever find a real authentic community that knows me and shows up for each other in truth and compassion. I’ve wondered if I’ll ever really get to know someone who is truly inspiring or if my life would be relegated to seeing stars perform always from a distance. 

I’m sure my friend has felt something similar. Will he every feel true love? Will he ever escape the pressure of society that is continually demanding he pay for his existence? Will he ever be ok with feeling rejected or pressured by his family and friends? Will he ever have a family? Will his talents ever be valued and supported and perhaps even magnified with the help of friends? 

Indeed his concerns are the same ones you and I face every day. Our relatively easy lives of wealth and family, may just be providing a little more distance between the emptiness of our answers and our momentary perceptions than someone who has fewer sweet distractions nearby. 

When I talk about intentions, I certainly mean your daily practice of setting a mindset and a goal but I am also wanting to focus on and elevate the grander intentions that give the daily goals direction and meaning. This grander intention starts to tap into what people usually talk about when we ask “What’s the meaning of life?” and “What’s my purpose for living?” For many people, this is an unanswerable question and I don’t have time nor the will to outline all the modern philosophies that have made sometimes convincing arguments that life has no meaning and that purpose is an illusion. What I will say is that the utter incompetence of those who call themselves Christians to answer this question is a condemnation of the church. For far too long, Christianity has placed God far away from existence, separated from hurting and empty people, and as a result, has made even the concept of God quaint and irrelevant. Knowing what we know about God’s name which is Yahweh (“I Am”) and the salvation of man through his Suffering Servant, The Word, Jesus, we can start to understand what Jesus meant when he said that this was the greatest commandment:

Jesus declared, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:37-38

If God is “I Am”, pure Being, the Source of existence itself, what does it mean to “love the Lord God with all your heart, soul, and mind?” It means that Yvon Chouinard founder of Patagonia was likely more in love with God when he was marveling at the beauty of creation hanging 2500 feet from a cliff’s edge than a woman who has been singing hymns in her church for 50 years waiting for her body to die so she can “go to heaven.” One person lived out their gratitude for this life and its experiences, the other numbed themselves out of existence with “church”. It means that being sensory alive, in touch with your sensual self, and fully able to appreciate your sexuality is a spiritual act whereas shaming teenagers and men and women for having sexual desires and expressions is an act of anti-being, and therefore a kind of hatred for God. People associate spirituality with being lifted into the clouds, when it actually looks like practicing grounding exercises and engaging all 5 senses with gratitude, awareness, and acceptance. Loving God means loving your own life and intending to pursue it’s creative expression with passion


The second commandment “Love your neighbor as yourself” can also be understood in this paradigm of Being. You are not an isolated individual. You live in a world that others are either improving or destroying. Imagine for a moment you were offered a new beautifully restored classic car, a custom designed home, and an unlimited amount of food for as long as you lived. The price is that everyone in the world except you will become an alcoholic. Would you take this deal? The truth is closer to home than you might think! Loving yourself means recognizing that we all swim in the same pool and what affects one of us affects all of us, even if we can’t document the exact manner in which it does. Martin Luther King said it this way, Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.”

So back to my question, “What kind of life is worth living?”. What kind of life would be worth yourself, others, and even God showing up to support. I believe it’s one that sounds something like this:



  • I intend to be a man of truth, honesty, authenticity, courage, and compassion
  • I intend to stay connected to my being and the mystery of life using radical acceptance, sensory awareness, and a practice of gratitude
  • I intend to speak truth to power and become a truly free person

  • I intend to find ways to make my gifts manifest in support of a better world and in exchange for a man’s spiritual values, not simply for what tangible benefit he can provide me immediately in exchange
  • I intend gain a larger platform for influence, working with more people and perhaps collaborating with some well known people
  • I intend to present myself to the world how I feel: sharp, smart, articulate, approachable, and confident
  • I intend to lead others to discover and live as they ought so I can discover and live as I ought (and vice versa)
  • I intend to have fun and connect with people, to attract those who match my energy, love, values, and playfulness and who intend to live life to its fullest, wasting not one day.


One of the keys to living like this is how we can “make our gifts manifest”. In a future post I’ll discuss the importance of this and what so often gets in the way of this practice (hint: it’s money).








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